Can’t catch a break
I knew a fellow that was in his 80s that worked at the same shitty company I did. It was also pretty clear to me that he just couldn’t keep up. Very sweet guy too. Conscious of racism, opposed a lot of bad policies (and took direct action in his younger years).
He told me one day that he worked there so he could afford care for his wife. Soon after his wife passed, so did he. Didn’t really get to retire.
lol. Like making a rent payment solely from the change found in your couch cushions.
I am dating a trans woman. Her parts similarly don’t function (but it’s due to the HRT).
I can’t speak on what might help it come back, but I can tell you there is plenty of sex you can do without an erection.
I am assuming you’re straight. (Man only interested in women.) It might be more challenging to find a straight woman that would be open to working with this, but it’s not impossible to find a woman that would love it. The best thing you can do is be confident in who you are, what you have to offer, and your worthiness as a person. (This is sexy no matter your identity.)
If you’re also interested in men, I hear there are some men that don’t use their penis at all. I don’t know a whole lot about that, so hopefully someone else can chime in if you indeed also like men.
I spoiler’d some more graphic descriptions of sex acts, if you’re open to ideas.
There’s lots of stuff you can do without a penis. The stuff you’ve probably thought of, like oral or fingering. There is also something called tribbing. In your case, this is where genitals would rub together. She might straddle you, or you might get between her legs and grind up on her.
Sex toys are pretty damn great. You can use a dildo, hold it or use one as a strap on. You don’t even need to strap it to your crotch. You could even strap it to your thigh and let her ride that. For people that need the extra mobility, there are dildos with holes in the base you can attach to a handle.
Lastly, there are hollow dildos you can put over your own penis. It might feel affirming to you.
But there is more than just dildos. Vibrators are great. You might know about the regular penis shaped vibrators (vibrating dildos, they can be good), stick vibrators (meh), rabbit vibrators (meh), and wand vibrators (Hitachi type, great!) There are also small vibrators that are really versatile. You can use them alone, or put them in your strap on for stimulation for yourself while you’re penetrating someone with the strap. Don’t be shy with vibrators, they’re great on penises too.
I kind of focused on the partner, but let’s not forget about you. I’m not sure about your numbness, but depending on that situation, you might still find pleasure from oral.
If you haven’t already, you might also explore anal. If you’re straight, it will not make you gay, promise! Always flared base. Look up resources on how to work your way up to something bigger. You have a prostate, which makes anal very pleasurable for some men.
It can be limiting to think of sex as penis in vagina, ends when the man orgasms. It can be so much more! Explore your partner’s body. Watch their body react to your touch. Find out what drives them crazy. Help them do the same for you. End on your terms. When you both have orgasmed? When each person signals they’re done? It’s all up to you.
Good luck!
Not liking them is reason enough. That would be a miserable childhood to be raised by people that don’t want them.
Yeah, it’s natural to have spaces that aren’t for me. It’s fine. I really just have an issue with spaces where I am supposedly welcome to be hostile towards me.
I am disappointed but not surprised. The attitude of men here reminds me a lot of default subs in Reddit. People tend to be more civil, but there is so much “but what about men?” when talking about women’s issues or belittling women still. Business as usual on the Internet, but I can see why it would cause women to avoid Lemmy.
I haven’t been back to Reddit, but it makes me miss the small niches where I didn’t see that as often.
White male punishments in the US
Young: “oh, he’s so young. We don’t want to ruin his promising life over a little mistake.”
Middle: “where is the evidence? I bet the other person is lying. It’s not that bad. He will get a slap on the wrist if anything.”
Old: “he’s unfit for punishment because he is old and has diseases that primarily affect old people.”
Everyone else
“Don’t do the crime if you can’t do the time.”
NOTHING BEATS A JELLY FILLED DONUT
Yeah I thought I was going nuts here. The eggs seemed like one of the least wasteful parts of the whole celebration.
Good for that prosecutor that pursued this creep, even though it cost her her job.
I know Toyota is Japanese, but they have a Kentucky, USA factory where they manufacture Camry and Lexus ES 350 and 300h.
If other people are affected, no they’re not. They just need to be tough like me.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I need to call in a favor for something that is affecting me.
“Oh no. I did his bidding. He was supposed to hurt other people, but not me. Now I hate that guy. Feel sorry for me.”
Same, lots of great people and a nice community. As a whole, they’re very accepting folks too and have no problems with the respectful non-furs.
Love the way the local places tend not to have employees that have been so abused they lost all the light behind their eyes.