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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • As someone with a chronic incurable disability, I’m tired of abled bodied people deciding for us which of our experiences count as ‘evidence’ and which do not.

    People have this perception of modern medicine as an infallible cure-all that isn’t saddled with systemic discrimination and neglect of women and minorities.

    It doesn’t matter how effective a medication is for a certain condition or for off label use. The only thing that matters is that that clinical trials are worth the investment to pharmaceutical companies, and the people most worth investing into are those with money and the privilege of being heard by their doctors.

    The rest of us can continue screaming into the void as our symptoms are dismissed and as we are treated like unreliable witnesses to our own bodies. ‘Have you tried yoga?’ ‘You just need to lose weight.’ ‘Abdominal pain? It’s just your period.’ We are treated like we aren’t trying our hardest to live with every symptom. And then when we find something that works, we are told that ‘it’s not covered by insurance’ or ‘there is no evidence that it works’ or ‘it’s just placebo’. It’s like nothing we feel in our body is true and everything we say is treated as a drugseeking lie.

    Fuck the cherry picked ‘evidence’. The system is broken and chronically ill people are left to suffer.


  • Yes. I’m going to cut to the point here.

    You are likely conflating the phrase ‘toxic masculinity’ with ‘men’. Toxic masculinity is a systemic problem, not a gender. It’s the cultural norms we grow up with that instill poor notions of what it means to be a man. It’s the widespread shaming and dismissal of men’s mental health. It’s the normalization of anger as the only acceptable emotion for men, making it the only outlet for their grief and pain. It’s the preclusion of men from caretaking roles and the expectation of men being breadwinners, and so much more.

    Men are raised by people, and people, men and women alike, in their ignorance, instill outdated ideas of masculinity in their kids uphold the expectations of their peers and elders.


  • The honest truth is that toxic masculinity is perpetuating an environment of hostility towards showing the need for emotional support and giving fellow men who need it.

    Women receive emotional support from other women because they have been socialized to give and receive it without shame.

    If you are a man, ask yourself when was the last time you were able to express emotional vulnerability with other men without feeling judged.

    This isn’t an issue of ‘value in females’. It’s an issue of valuing men’s emotion vulnerability as a critical part of healthy masculinity.