Oh yeah, that last point rings true for my dad too. My family hired a health aid to assist with our relative who he’s helping care for in home hospice, and we fought with him for weeks to defer to the aid’s expertise. He believes, despite the fact that this is literally her career, that he knows better how to take care of someone on their deathbed. Despite not having gone through it before, or having any medical or healthcare experience. He would snap at the aid for showing him how to do something.

We ultimately had to have a heart-to-heart with the aid to apologize for his behavior and to teach her how to use his own narcissism against him so he would do things the right way.

I think he’d be a grandiose narcissist. He truly believes he’s the best and can’t be wrong. And when someone calmly and carefully explains why he is wrong about a particular thing, his mood flips 180 degrees and he blows up and gets super defensive. If we don’t give up trying to convince him, his mood gets even more sour and he essentially mopes like toddler. This can be for anything, even the most trivial bullshit that wouldn’t phase anybody else.

And he does all that while bragging to anyone that will listen that he’s open-minded and loves being proven wrong.

I’m not a psychiatrist, so this is all observational for me, but my father is a narcissist so I can at least tell you what he’s like.

In conversation, or any interaction, if the topic veers into anything that my father can’t relate to or isn’t aware of from his own personal experience, he immediately reframes the topic so it’s about him. This consistently happens in the middle of a conversation, and it usually interrupts someone speaking. The interruption is always unrelated to what the person was actually saying, so after he interrupts you can always see the person he cut off deflate and shrink away from the conversation. Because it’s clear he wasn’t participating in a two-sided conversation, he was just waiting his turn to cut in and take over.

He manages to come across as caring, but that’s only because he knows exactly how to act so he appears that way. But his motivation is only to be praised for his apparent empathy, because if you probe his behavior even a little bit, it’s like a switch is flipped and he goes into a full on angry defensive mode.

For example, a close family member is dying, and he is the only one available to care for them. And he is taking care of them physically, don’t get me wrong, I appreciate that, but whenever another family-member asks for an update on their condition, his framing is always about what he has done and how he has learned what to do in a particular situation, it’s never about the condition of our dying family member.

He takes credit for every idea and new concept he comes across, even if the person who gave him the idea is in the room with him. It sometimes even happens in the same conversation.

Anyway, those are just my personal experiences living with an extremely difficult and selfish father who is incapable of thinking genuinely about other people. I learned a lot about myself and him by reading Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. Worth a read even if you’re not thinking about a parent.

Thank you. He gets more normalized any time someone talks about this asshole and doesn’t mention his extremist and wildly unpopular views. He is a terrible person, and not enough people know why.

This article does a pretty solid job of explaining how horrible he is, though I’m sure there are better ones.

I’m furious about this, and I don’t live in Georgia. The way the state treated opposition to this fascist fever dream was abhorrent and Anti-American. When I think about what these facilities are like, I can’t help but picture those propaganda videos of Al Qaeda training in the desert. I mean, they will certainly be training police to perfect the terror tactics that have kept Georgia law enforcement so racist and untrustworthy (no-knock warrants, swatting, shooting before asking questions, killing every dog they see for fun, etc. etc. etc.).

Curious though, why include this part? Without any explanation it seems completely out of place. Also, why is this true, tariffs?

It’s estimated that Atlanta’s 85-acre, $118 million training center — an increase from the previous estimate of $90 million — would cost more than double to build today.

It has definitely become more obvious lately, but this isn’t new. Anti-Zionism has been conflated with Antisemitism for as long as I can remember. I remember being called a “self-hating Jew” more than 20 years ago, for probing the myth that the IDF was the “most precise and humane army in the world.” That was a common trope in the 90s and 00s, but has always been utter bullshit.

I was told I couldn’t be Jewish and called an “Arab-lover” for talking about my countless positive experiences being friends with Arabs, Palestinians, and Muslims in general. That they thought this was an insult just exposed their bigotry.

Terminology changes, but there is rarely logic to raw hatred.

If you have a general interest channel that includes most/much or your company on slack or something similar, you could post links to articles that explain the problems with relying on chatbots or best-practices for using them in a professional setting, and hope the person in question sees it. That way you don’t have to call them out personally, and the whole company can benefit from a reality check on how these things should or shouldn’t be used.

Your whisky preference is indeed correct.

I recently asked myself similar questions about two friends I knew for about 15 years. I thought I had been close with them, but I quickly answered No to all of them (plus a bunch of follow-ups I asked myself), and realized they were never real friends, or at least hadn’t been for a while, they were just people who were accustomed to seeing me and sometimes making plans together.

I always felt anxious after hanging out with them, never felt like they listened to or cared about anything I said, never remembered my preferences or things about my personal life from visit to visit, never believed me when I said I knew something, etc etc. It’s easy to get used to this kind of thing and to think it’s normal and healthy, but it was so exhausting and frustrating for me that I finally gave up and haven’t talked to them in over a year.

Sometimes these types of questions are super helpful in evaluating longstanding relationships as well as new ones.

The drinking water systems in the United States are so precarious and vulnerable, that I’m genuinely shocked we haven’t had more widespread issues with the water supply. The systems are made up of thousands of locally-managed interconnected intakes and outflows, and oversight is spotty and combative.

Please use a water filter. And thank your local utilities and maintenance people for their hard work keeping us alive.

Thanks for posting this, I always appreciate primary sources. Especially when they’re short court docs like this.

Wow, that’s really impressive. I don’t really know why, but I want this.

Though I initially thought it was handheld, which would make their claim to be able to print on nearly any surface a little more believable. Still seems like incredible tech.

President Donald Trump’s Education Department restored access to student-loan borrowers’ income-driven repayment plans after the American Federation of Teachers sued the administration for taking down the online applications.

Uhhh this is news to me. Thanks for the detailed email explaining my current options… (/s obviously). I love learning about life-altering policy changes that impact me personally, from the news. Assholes.

don’t think that FAANG companies realize how toxic their image is

Ain’t that the truth. Their behavior and the products they’ve been launching the last few years prove this to me. They’re completely out of touch with society and what consumers actually want. LLMs are another perfect example of that.

Parsing that title was painful.

Not sure if they changed the headline after this was posted, but it’s currently headlined “A mother who traveled to a residential treatment center to visit her child was found dead; her daughter and friend are now in custody” . . . so much easier to read.

As a Jew who has experienced my fair share of actual antisemitism, fuck you, DHS.

We know you’re full of shit. We know that you know that you’re full of shit. And we know that you know that we know that you’re full of shit.

Don’t use me and my people as an excuse to target immigrants. It’s transparent. We know better than most what a scapegoat looks like, you racist pieces of shit.

Yeah, definitely. I delayed my career after grad school because I was assured (by people who were already set for life) that working as an unpaid intern and doing academic fellowships for slave wages would get me a higher-paying job, especially if I waited long enough for the financial system to recover after the ‘08 crash. That was utter bullshit, and now I have significantly fewer assets than most other elder millennials, am way behind on my retirement savings (which lost thousands in the last week thanks to Trump lighting it on fire…), I will never own a home, will never be able to pay off my student debt, and will probably never be able to start a family. Oh and I have good credit, despite my hundreds of thousands of dollars of student debt. I’ve even had a good job for the last 5 years, but it’s all worthless bullshit when upward mobility is practically impossible, and even maintaining my current “wealth” becomes more unrealistic every day. I’m just surviving, that’s all. And I have it relatively good.

I pay $50 a month for 10 Gigabit fiber. Truly unlimited, no caps or throttling, and I can use my own equipment without issue. I can’t even fully take advantage of the ridiculous speed I have available with my current devices. But I can use a quarter of its potential and it’s still the fastest internet I’ve ever had. I used to pay three times this amount for way shittier service. It’s the one good deal out of all my bloated utility expenses.

I’ve never understood this. He’s a 14 year old child, he’s not an adult. No matter what he might have done, his alleged crime doesn’t magically add 4 years to his life.

Habba is using this child’s life for her own reputation, I would guess…

While this is the shittiest of victories, it’s still a victory. By dismissing the case with prejudice, the judge took away Trump’s leverage over Adams. The prosecutor had originally asked that the charges be dismissed without prejudice, so they could continue to threaten Adams with prosecution if he didn’t do what Trump wanted. That’s how they could hold this over him. This ruling was basically as far as the judge could go within the bounds of the law. It’s not ideal, but it’s definitely better than the alternative.

I’m also confident there’s still a closet full of skeletons somewhere, so it’s not like this means Adams is now magically squeaky clean or anything.