cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/65824884
Hey everyone
We’re really sorry to say this, but lemm.ee will be shutting down on June 30, 2025.
What you need to know
As of now:
- New user registrations are disabled
- Creating new communities is disabled
What you should do:
- You can export your settings at https://lemm.ee/settings to take them with you to another instance.
- If you’re moving to another instance, consider adding a note to your lemm.ee profile with your new username. Your old profile will still be visible from other instances even after we go offline.
- Alternatively, if you want to delete your lemm.ee profile, now is the best time to do it, so the deletion can federate out before we go offline.
- If you’re one of the folks supporting us with a recurring donation, please remember to cancel it (Ko-Fi donations should have been cancelled automatically already). Our leftover funds are already enough to cover our bills for next month, so we can keep things running without any more support.
Because of how Lemmy is built, everything posted on lemm.ee will still be accessible from other instances, even after we go offline.
Why this is happening
The key reason is that we just don’t have enough people on the admin team to keep the place running. Most of the admin team has stepped down, mostly due to burnout, and finding replacements hasn’t worked out.
The sad reality is that while there are a lot of great people on Lemmy, there are also some who use the platform to attack others, stir up conflict, or actively try to undermine the project. Admins are volunteers who deal with the latter group on a constant basis, this takes a mental toll. Please understand why our admins chose to step down, and be kind to the admins on whatever instance you decide to join.
We know this sucks. We’re genuinely sorry it’s ending like this. Thank you to everyone who spent time here and helped make it better.
– lemm.ee team
Meh, it’s a pro-censorship instance and the owner is a clown
Wow you totally seem like a credible and sensible person to make such an assessment, totally not someone with a history of transphobic arguments, nope, not at all, totally not someone who would get themselves banned making such an argument and deserve it 100%.
If it wasn’t clear I was being sarcastic. You clearly parroted right-wing transphobic talking points which means you believe or agree with them to a certain extent. You are not a safe person for trans people. Saying “I’m not transphobic I support LGBTQ, but…” is the equivalent of saying “I’m not racist, I have black friends”. I know your kind very well. I used to be one.
Sure. So questionning about sports and potentially being wrong makes me transphobic?
That’s exactly my point. If you don’t know, you’re transphobic. If we don’t agree with you, we’re transphobic. If you’re wrong because you made a mistake, then it’s deliberate and you’re transphobic.
The good old argument from authority, I see. We’re not the same, and you don’t know me better than myself. Thanks. Please refrain from using manipulatory speech tactics.
Btw to be transparent, I still haven’t done the research about the sport subject after the criticism. It’s about time I do. If I’m wrong, then I’m wrong, and I’ll admit it, but giving facts is better than saying I’m motivated by some evil intentions, because that’s just base-less and wrong, and another manipulation technique.
If it’s any consolation, I’m with you on blahaj. It’s like a sea of people who can’t wait for someone to point a finger at. Your post was harmless, questioning, and didn’t seem hate-filled at all. I usually avoid blahaj users, I never know when even a harmless phrase will be enough to cause one of them to have a nervous breakdown.
You don’t get the point of the instance. That sports thing is deliberately pushed by the alt right because it gets people riled up, it was literally a non issue until they started bringing it up (and lying about it, making it seem like a bigger issue than it really is). There are not a lot of trans women and we largely don’t compete at a professional level. We have to keep hearing this tired old debate over and over, and so on blåhaj, which is supposed to be a safe space, we simply ban all alt right rhetoric targeting us rather than engage in it.
Do you know how often someone shows up and randomly brings up some unrelated alt right talking point? In an unrelated post? Yeah this is not us being sensitive, this is other people not understanding what it means to be a minority being specifically targeted to create engagement. We can’t all expend all of our energy all of the time to rebuke every single argument. That effort would legitimately be inhuman
Lemmy is a federated site, and you have to accept that blahaj is a public instance, as do the rest of the users. If you guys can’t have a conversation without flipping your shit, or can’t handle your own business, then lock the door.
You ever been on an instance that doesn’t have their own rules?
Edit: And it’s hardly flipping our shit to ban people who dehumanize us or spread anti trans propaganda.
That’s a dead end, I say no and even if I did, it doesn’t change the attitude of blahaj users outside of blahaj, you act like you proved a point, you didn’t, we get madder at eachother, I’m sure you’ve been around this track once or twice.
❤️ feels good to hear from time to time. I’m just shocked at how much people are fine with that.
It’s pretty similar to hexbear and lemmygrad in a way. You learn to avoid and not trigger them because it always end in a bloodbath even though you never intended it to
I believe what infuriates me the most is that your comments just end up being deleted instead of just downvoted. It always goes in the same way, as if there’s only one voice.
But delete-instead-of-downvote is how you drive out the trolls. If you give shitty people a platform labeled “I think this person is wrong” then you’ve still given them a platform.
If you don’t understand the actions, it’s probably because you’re not trans. Try to be aware of that. Would a few comments seriously deteriorate your mental health? No, but transphobia might end up doing that on trans folks, that’s why it’s completely removed.
This is it. It’s really easy for cis people to talk about trans issues like they are nothing because they don’t experience them. I should know. I used to be like that before I knew I was a trans girl, and then I eventually came to realize why it hurt so much when my egg broke and I came to be in that position.
people (with a much different experience than you) tell you that you’re hurting them. you say they’re just lying?
Things doesn’t always go your way and people should accept that.
If it hurts them to discuss these kind of topics, then don’t, but don’t go and call people transphobic for that because it’s just not. Maybe they should just not get hurt or offended that easily.
If you get hurt because someone doesn’t have the same opinion as you while still being respectful, that’s sad.
That’s just the argument from authority all over again. Transphobia is transphobia. Not agreeing on a particuliar subject is not transphobia because a random transgender person said so, or even if all of them say so. A definition is a definition, you don’t get to redefine the meaning of words to fit your narrative.
Let me kick your nuts and tell you the exact same thing. Just ignore the pain, bro
Can’t even ignore the pain of getting a post deleted…
Zzzzzz
Yup they’re your typical transphobic bigot who’s mad that someone actually stands up against them and won’t tolerate them. It’s important to challenge these types of people so that the mask can slip off and they reveal themselves for who they really are.
Ada is far from being a good Admin
The moment you disagree with anything she does or says your account will be permanently banned and you will have a different opinion.
.blahaj is not a queer space, it’s Ada’s space.
Any queer-friendly instances you’d recommend?
Tumblr lol
Sadly i haven’t seen any other lgbtq targeted spaces that haven’t been consolidated under .blahaj
Have met her IRL. She’s a decent person, but not the greatest at admining, and needs to finally fucking block .ml like an adult.
I don’t believe she’s a bad person, but not the one you want to be managing an instance
I believe she should block less instead of more